HOW TO DATE

HOW TO DATE

INTRODUCTION

Many people find it difficult to find others to date.  Some dream all their lives of meeting the right person to spend the rest of their life with.  The following are tips on where to meet people and what to do and not to do when dating.

WHERE TO MEET PEOPLE

Dating services can be very costly but are successful in pairing compatible people.  The dating service will either match the person with potential people or the person can pick and choose who they wish to meet by reviewing personal profiles.

Many newspapers now have a section of singles ads once a week where people can place and/or answer singles ads.  There is a phone number to call to leave a short message on the ad chosen.  These ads can run up a phone bill since there is a cost of $1.99 per minute or more while on the phone.

Single dances are held at banquet rooms or bars/restaurants.  There is usually a very minimal fee such as $5 or $10 to gain access to a singles dance. Once there, singles ask each other to dance and then sit at a table together to discuss if they have anything in common. Food is sometimes also served. 

Churches, hospitals, or counseling centers will offer support groups for single or divorced people. It is a good way to help cope with the stresses of everyday life, and the person may also meet someone along the way.

Singles groups often get together and meet once or twice a month for dinner and an activity. This is a nice social activity that gets a person out of the house. Most relationships start with friendship first and then evolve into more.

Veterans clubs, clubs at the library (reading or computer clubs), hiking clubs, bird watching clubs, or any other types of clubs are good ways to meet people with similar interests.

Sports leagues such as bowling, softball, baseball, volleyball, basketball will also get the person into a casual atmosphere and around other people.

Attending Bible studies and church services as well as joining church activities is good, wholesome, worth-while time spent. The person will also benefit spiritually.

Volunteering at the local hospital, care facility, or facility for mentally-challenged children will also make a difference in your life and the lives of others. The person looking for a relationship may find it in a fellow volunteer. Ask your friends and co-workers to find a compatible “blind date” for you. Someone may know just the right person that is also looking for someone to spend time with.

WHERE TO MEET AND WHAT TO DO

The first date should be driving separately and meeting at a restaurant especially if they have only spoken on the phone, have not met the person before, or don’t know that much about them.  In the female’s case, the female won’t have to rely on that person to take her home if the evening does not go well. In the male’s case, they both can leave and he will not have to be concerned about taking her home if the evening does not go well. 
Attending a movie or play either before or after eating at a restaurant would be a good choice.  

Just be sure there is enough time to talk to find out about each other. 

Taking a walk in the park allows the couple to enjoy nature, be more at ease and casual, and discuss any topic they wish.

Going to festivals, fairs, amusement parks, or even haunted houses is also a casual way to meet someone and spend an evening.

SUBJECTS TO TALK ABOUT ON A FIRST DATE

Parents, siblings, nieces, nephews, children, and grandchildren are common subjects.

People often talk about their pets and their cute antics.

School history such as which schools were attended, classes taken, and school stories are good subjects.

Discussing what is done in any spare time such as hobbies or sports is very informative. 

Favorite movies, actors, singers, and what type of music is preferred is a good subject.

A person’s occupation is also a popular discussion. Everyone wants to know what people do for a living, and some people have very interesting jobs. 

WARNINGS

People can be very dangerous sometimes. They may not really be how they portray themselves.  It is best to always be cautious and careful when meeting anyone for the first time, even if they have spoken on the phone quite a few times. 

CONCLUSION

People have problems dating because they are too shy, work too much, or just don’t know how or where to meet people. No one should be in a rush to meet Mr. or Miss Right because that person might just end up being Mr. or Miss Wrong. If it is meant to be, it will happen and it shouldn’t be forced. It is important to have fun while you’re with that person, be honest, and courteous. 

Start out as friends first and then see where it leads. Workplace relationships don’t always work out. If you date someone that you work with and then break up, it may be hard to see that person everyday especially if the circumstances of breaking up were hurtful. It may also be hard to see that person with someone else. Some people find it hard to work together because they are constantly in competition with each other.  Remember never to get talked into anything that you feel uncomfortable with, and always remember your morals and principals to be worthy of yourself and the other person. You don’t want to do anything that you will regret later.